306. How to understand what you really want from a woman

Self-awareness is the starting point of every successful dating journey. With a clear sense of who you are and what you want in a partnership, you’ll have a greater likelihood of finding someone whose journey aligns with your own — whether you’re seeking a serious or casual partnership in every sense or something in between: friendly conversation without any expectations. According to dating experts in the field of dating psychology, knowing your own values and intentions helps you avoid circumstances that aren’t in line with your internal needs.

Why is that important? Because when you have a clear sense of your own value, preferences, and expectations in a partnership, you’ll be less inclined to settle for someone who doesn’t meet your standards. Instead, you’ll be able to relate to someone who values what you have to offer. 💛

💬 What are your dating goals — truly?

On Milana.Date (and in the real world), dating can be the following for different people. There are a number of typical “modes” of what one may be looking for:

• Long-term committed relationships: having a partner and strong commitment to the relationship.
• Casual communication/casual dating — enjoying the connection without the big expectations or long-term commitment.
• Attention, socializing, companionship — pleasant conversation, support for your emotions, perhaps some playful joking around, but no definite intention or commitment.

Usually before sending the message or meeting the person, you’ll need to truthfully answer the following:

    Which of these fits me now?

According to experts in relationships: “Being clear about your intentions—is what you want and why—can prevent confusion and mixed signals.”

And when you’re not sure of something, that’s perfectly fine. There may be times when you don’t have to try to pinpoint exactly what something is but instead focus on being honest, open, and clear. 😊

🧩 Tips & Tricks for how to figure out what you want 🤔🙋‍♂️

Below are some helpful questions you may need to answer before diving into dating in order to figure out your own wants:

• Think about your own past. Did you just end a serious relationship? Or have you been single for a long time? Maybe your own past relationships will affect what you’re ready for.
• Consider what you are willing to invest. A serious relationship may involve investing your time and emotions. Casual hook-ups or contact may involve less of a commitment but may also involve less honesty. Ask yourself: can you commit to a steady conversation or date or just occasional contact?
• Articulate your values and non-negotiables. What are the characteristics you look for in a woman? List your deal-breakers (honesty, loyalty, life goals) vs. your wishes (e.g. funny) in a partner. Some people recommend putting your list down on paper to keep you focused on what you really want.
• Be honest with yourself & with others. If you go into discussions unclear about what you want, there may be a lack of clarity. Getting your point across helps you & the one you are interested in be on the same page.💬
• Check in with your emotions instead of logic. Logic may tell one story but the story your emotions tell may be different. Check in with how you feel. Do you feel excited about growing together or more comfortable keeping things casual?

❤️ Why having clear intentions makes a difference for you and the women you meet 😊

Prioritizing clarity over dating isn’t just the best thing for you—it’s also considerate of the people you meet.

• If you want a committed relationship but conceal your intentions: you may give a mixed signal of hope.
• If you merely want to have some casual conversation but see where the ‘maybe serious’ conversation takes you, you can both end up being hurt when your expectations end up being different.
• If both have a clear understanding of their own needs and express them candidly to their partner, the likelihood of a of successful relationships between them increases.

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❤️ Final thought — Dating with intention 💛✨

Ultimately, dating isn’t a one-size-fits all journey. There are times when we want to connect on a higher level. There are also times when we want to explore or meet new people. There are also times in between. But the biggest thing you have to keep in mind is honesty: honesty about who you are, honesty about what you hope for, honesty about the people you encounter. That way, instead of being on a search for something cloudy, you can uncover what works for you. 🌟

“So before you swipe, before you click ‘message,’ ask yourself: ‘What am I looking for — and am I ready to give it what it needs?’”

Good luck on Milana.Date – may you find someone who shares your heart and your intentions. 💖😊

You can find your own happiness, just believe in yourself. Yes, yes, yes! You can be happy. Milana.Date will help you find your love! We believe in you!

😊HAPPY DATE !😊

Updated on: 06/12/2025